What is the secret to Self-Coaching success?
It is all about knowing how to ask the right Questions, in the right way, in the correct sequence, at the right time. This is in essence what Life Coaches are trained to do, and Self-Coaching is no different.
One of the best ways I have found to dramatically improve my level of thinking about circumstances and life in general is to ask Effective Questions.
Affirmations are “Old School”. They are a passive way of conditioning the mind. Moreover, they don’t work very well if there are limiting beliefs that contradict the affirmation that is being chanted. On the other hand, Questions open up possibilities and portals for new understandings, insights and answers.
Therefore whenever I seek to improve my life circumstances, I sit back reflect and ask question after questions after question, until the right answers come my way.
I experience problems everyday. Some BIG, some small, some rather insignificant that unfortunately turn out to be quite significant when ignored 
However, no matter what problems I face, I know that I can overcome them if I ask the Right Questions Persistently.
For every problem in life there is a solution, otherwise it wouldn’t be called a problem but rather a DISASTER!!! However, solutions can only be found by asking the Right Questions – and knowing the RIGHT Questions to Ask means that I must first ask the WRONG Questions in order to get to the Right Questions that will provide me with the Solutions and Answers I need to Solve the Problem I have Ignored all this time 
I know that if I can change the way I feel about a certain situation, person or about my life, that I can effectively begin to see things from a different perspective, which can effectively open a flood of new opportunities that I hadn’t noticed before.
One of the best methods I have found that allows me to do this is to begin viewing my circumstances from a different Persona, eg. I would perceive my circumstances as a Child, as a Scientist, as an Artist, as a Detective, as a Professional Athlete, or as a Billionaire Entrepreneur, etc.
For instance I would ask myself:
- How would a Child perceive this situation?
- How would they feel about these circumstances?
- What kinds of questions would they ask that would enable them to move forward proactively?
I’m really tired with all the hype about Positive Thinking.
Thinking Positively will not help me overcome obstacles if I am inflexible with my decisions and actions. Thinking Positively won’t assist me with finding solutions if I don’t accept the circumstances of my reality. So instead of thinking positively I rather Think Resourcefully.
Resourceful Thinking enables me to think Flexibly, Creatively, Critically and focuses me on finding Solutions and Opportunities. And most importantly it encourages me to see Reality and Circumstances as they are without being affected by my Rose-Colored Glasses 
And finally, the fundamental key to Resourceful Thinking lies in asking Effective Questions. The more effective Questions I ask, the more Resourceful I shall become.
I have suffered from bouts of anxiety many times over. It causes the heart to race, the temperature to rise, and the body to shake. Moreover it has stifled my progress and prevented me from stepping outside of my Comfort Zone.
However, I do now realize that anxiety is just like any other emotion – it’s simply an interpretation I have made about circumstances that has forced me to feel this way. Hence, if I change my interpretation or the MEANING of my experience, I will therefore be better able to control how my body responds – and consequently reduce or eliminate my feelings of anxiety altogether.
The Key is to Ask Better Questions.
What if… today I decided to live my life as a Child?
What would I do?
How would I spend my time?
How would I think differently about my life?
What decisions would I make?
What decisions would I not need to make?
How would I overcome my emotional blocks?
What would I believe about myself, others and the goals that I would like to achieve?
What would I value most about my life?
How would I treat others? and… what kind of questions would I ask myself that could help me find simple solutions to the problems confronting my reality?…
What if I was a Child all over again? Just Imagine the Possibilities
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