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  iCoach 12:58 pm on February 4, 2010 Permalink | Comment
  Tags: attraction (2), comfort zone (4), emotions, success (13)   

  Emotional Discomfort is the Key to Success 

  A personal Mentor of mine once told me that in order to succeed in life I must become comfortable with feeling emotionally uncomfortable for an indefinite amount of time. Only then will I develop the necessary mental stamina, strength and resilience to deserve to accomplish my goals and objectives.

  Furthermore, he informed me that goals aren’t achieved but rather they are ATTRACTED by the person I become as a result of the consistent discomfort I successfully and proactively face as I move through life.

   

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  iCoach 11:21 pm on February 1, 2010 Permalink | Comment
  Tags: emotions, perspective (12)   

  You Alone Control Your Perspective 

  People often and unnecessarily waste their Emotions and Time dwelling upon things that they cannot Change or Control. Subsequently this makes them feel Inadequate, Incapable and Overwhelmed. What’s the point? Either focus on something else, or change your Perspective of the situation immediately. Life is simply too short to waste our thoughts on things that we simply have no influence over.

   
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  iCoach 7:34 pm on January 22, 2010 Permalink | Comment
  Tags: emotions, success (13)   

  The Power of the Proactive Response 

  Success in any field of endeavor is built upon a mix of many different qualities. However, if I was to choose one quality that has helped me considerably throughout life, it is the quality of Responding Proactively to the events and circumstances of my life.

  When emotions get out of hand, than mistakes are made, promises are broken, and Effective Thinking gets thrown out the door. It’s only when I am able to STOP… and consciously choose how I respond emotionally – in the most productive way – to people and the environment, that I obtain the clarity I need to get through the challenges standing in my way.

   
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  iCoach 7:45 pm on January 21, 2010 Permalink | Comment
  Tags: emotions, life purpose (2), perspective (12), reframing, transformation (5)   

  Overcoming Emotional Turbulence 

  There have been many moments in my life when the forces of CHANGE decided to pull my life apart unexpectedly. During these times I would attempt to maintain my composure under the emotional turbulence by grounding myself in Familiarity – in things that provided me with a Sense of Purpose.

  I would involve myself in activities that enabled me to gain a Sense of Certainty over my life. Furthermore, I would turn and consciously Reframe the Uncertainty of CHANGE into purposeful action that allowed me to perceive my circumstances as only one thread of a Bigger Canvas that I didn’t yet fully understand or comprehend.

  This SENSE OF PURPOSE subsequently provided me with the confidence I needed to calm my emotions and focus on the journey ahead.

   
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  iCoach 8:07 pm on January 17, 2010 Permalink | Comment
  Tags: emotions, happiness, perspective (12)   

  The Secret to Happiness 

  There is really only one secret to Happiness. And that is Perspective.

  No matter what is going on around me, no matter what problems I face, no matter how many people criticize me, judge me, or try to break me down emotionally, it doesn’t matter and it certainly doesn’t affect my level of happiness. And that’s because of my Perspective.

  I see Problems as Challenges that make me better, tougher, stronger and more resilient than ever before. I hear Criticism and this Motivates me to prove others wrong. I even feel the emotional baggage that others dump on my shoulders and I understand at that very moment that it’s NOT ABOUT ME, but rather ALL ABOUT THEM! And so I smile fully knowing that happiness rests securely in my hands

   
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  iCoach 7:59 pm on January 15, 2010 Permalink | Comment
  Tags: emotions, metaphors (6)   

  Observe Your Reactions While Watching Movies 

  I learned today that how I react emotionally to circumstances presented within a movie is simply a reflection of how I deal with the circumstances of my life. For instance, I ask myself,

  Do I feel Uncomfortable or Excited when the lead characters go through troubled times and setbacks? Am I disheartened by their plight? Or am I strengthened and excited by the journey that lies ahead?”

  What does all this really say about me and how I approach my life and circumstances?

   
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  iCoach 9:04 pm on January 6, 2010 Permalink | Comment
  Tags: anxiety, comfort zone (4), emotions, perspective (12), questions (7)   

  Anxiety is Only an Interpretation of Reality 

  I have suffered from bouts of anxiety many times over. It causes the heart to race, the temperature to rise, and the body to shake. Moreover it has stifled my progress and prevented me from stepping outside of my Comfort Zone.

  However, I do now realize that anxiety is just like any other emotion – it’s simply an interpretation I have made about circumstances that has forced me to feel this way. Hence, if I change my interpretation or the MEANING of my experience, I will therefore be better able to control how my body responds – and consequently reduce or eliminate my feelings of anxiety altogether.

  The Key is to Ask Better Questions.

   
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  iCoach 11:02 pm on January 5, 2010 Permalink | Comment
  Tags: emotions, worry   

  Life Was Meant for Living Not Worrying 

  I remember once reading a book written by Dale Carnegie entitled “How to Stop Worrying and Start Living” – published in 1948. The book provided many interesting strategies and insights, however what stood out for me was something that Dale Carnegie said.

  He pointed out that over 90% of what we worry about NEVER comes true! And yet we still continue indulging in our worries, replaying them in our minds over and over again without ever realizing that Life was meant for Living not Worrying

   
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  iCoach 10:38 pm on January 2, 2010 Permalink | Comment
  Tags: comfort zone (4), emotions, goals (4), habits (3), success (13)   

  Within “Discomfort” Lies the Key to Success 

  Someone once asked me: What is one lesson you will teach your kids about life?

  I said, “I will teach my kids that in order to live a happy, fulfilling and successful life, that they must make a habit of becoming comfortable with being emotionally uncomfortable for extended periods at a time.”

  This essentially boils down to having the willingness to step outside your Comfort Zone every single day until your goals and objectives are achieved. This ain’t easy, but I know that it’s something that I must personally work on every day.

   
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  iCoach 10:32 pm on January 2, 2010 Permalink | Comment
  Tags: emotions, optimism (2), thinking (4)   

  Optimism Clouds Our Sense of Reality 

  Years ago when I first started reading personal development books, I could not get enough of the “Positive Thinking Movement”. These books encouraged me to think Optimistically under all conditions and circumstances. At the time this seemed like a great idea. However, it ended up hurting me.

  Thinking Optimistically all of the time clouded my SENSE OF REALITY and locked me away from experiencing seemingly NEGATIVE EMOTIONS that otherwise could have served me if I had understood the messages they were sending. As a result, being a pure Optimist wore me down mentally, and actually robbed me of my ability to think flexibly